The Insufficient Man/Woman

Many of you may be wondering what is an insufficient man or woman? This is not an official term that can be found through books but something that I have creatively came up with through observation and wit thinking that has apparently been getting much attention. (cheers to me) and it is now officially copywritten so if you want to use the term you have to go through me biters and stealers.
So what is an insufficient man or woman or male or female. Have you ever been to the bank hoping to withdraw money knowing that your funds are low but you haven't checked your balance because your secretly hoping that somehow magically or by faith that your account will have enough for you to withdraw the cash that you need? Then you get to the bank and you are highly disappointed that your ATM reads "insufficient funds" or your total balance is zero? If you have experienced this then you know the feeling of complete disappointment, let down and panic that comes into play.


This example can be applied to the insufficient man or woman. An insufficient sex builds you up, talks about all of the things that he or she has and can do for you and you are silently hoping that this is the one because they compliment you every way they can and they have the right financial balance. You find out sooner or later that this person bases their relationships on the way you dress and look and then try to compliment you with their fancy lifestyle thinking that's enough to keep you interested. Some people go with it for awhile and they soon discover that there is nothing more to that person aside from the flash, cars and money. Now you are highly disappointed and back to square one. The insufficient sex will or may offer you everything you've ever wanted financially and material wise and has no common sense vocabulary, can barey write correctly and can't offer you anything deep past their pockets. So if your looking for deep or stimulating conversation, great love making and other great qualities that make the perfect mate, this species is not for you.


I recently came across an insufficient male on a well known social networking site and had to write this post. I'm not going to name him for that would be just embarrassing for him but let's just call him Mr. Unlucky because he couldn't survive 3 text messages with me without putting his foot in his mouth and me figuring out and letting him know that we could never be a match. I've been writing and experiencing for a vey long time. Social networks for me are not a way of meeting someone because I am not looking and am quite happy with my life and the important people in it, they know who they are. I am there to meet new people hopefully gain some great friends and promote my writings whatever happens after that is up to life and the people I interract with. I can always spot someone that I will be great friends with or someone that I need to stay away from and believe me this Tiger had the wrong colored spots. After only sending me 3 text messages and 3 lines of saying the wrong thing I spotted the rat.


MISTAKE 1: He was already trying to give himself the title "daddy"
MISTAKE 2: He asked me for sexy pics of myself in high heel shoes and a sexy dress.
MISTAKE 3: He kept calling me sexy and baby but never by my name.


These 3 mistakes alone made me come to the conclusion that he was after something and definitely insufficient. Why did I come to this conclusion i'll tell you. First he didn't want to get to know me he didn't ask if I had kids, didn't want to know about me, or what my day even consisted of. Second you never ask someone for sexy pics if you guys aren't even dating and third his words alone stunk with arrogance. I quickly responded to him by lol ing ( to warn him that I mean no harm but was serious in what I was about to say" and then I tore into him like a panther does it's prey. I told him 1. I never call anyone daddy except for my father, I have 1 father and am not looking for another, (plus he hasn't done anything to earn that title) 2. We weren't dating and he never claimed me so sexy pics were in the air and 3. I don't wear heels unless it's a special occasion or I'm going somewhere that it's necessary. Then I made sure to add the topper "I don't think i'm your type. "


That alone is rejection and I know that I bruised his ego. Of course he had to try to be a hard hitter and ask me why I said that? I told him I'm a grown woman who has more to do than worry about prancing around in heels and a dress all day for anyone except myself. I gladly let him know that I was not a toy and that if I want to dress up for me or my man then that's why I would do it not just so he or anyone else could try to flaunt me in front of their friends to stroke their ego. I'm better than that. Well let me tell you the more I let him have it the more he showed just how insufficient he was. He started to ramble about how he was an engineer and how he had his own company and would soon be a millionaire and that he drives a bmw. I guess that was supposed to be the part where I apologized and acted like a good little girl so that I could benefit from his cash. 


Instead I retaliated by telling him I'm happy that he's on a successful track but money doesn't make a man be a man. And if anything forbid his precious lifestyle get disrupted and he goes broke would he want a woman that loves him for him or one that would leave him because he could no longer support the lifestyle that he so graciously provided. He then wrote "I want someone that is a woman not someone that dresses like a kid and money does make a man". Now that was a low and unsuccessful blow. Because I then wrote to him that he didn't think that I dressed like a little kid in my pics on my profile in which I was wearing casual yet femine attire (which also told me that he couldn't take the heat, doesn't like strong women that speak their mind and that he was no match for me mentally) I also wrote that men who actually struggled and worked hard to get their money can appreciate a female like me and their finances those are men that know that money doesn't make them. Men make the money but the money doesn't make you. He then had a few short things to say, nothing bad but he was making a poor decision in phrasing his words because I could barely understand the sentences, had to read them 2 to 3 times and he misspelled simple words like the car dodge and the word "wear". I made my last comments by letting him know that my clothes, car or living space did not define me or anyone else as a woman and didn't detemine what I can bring to a relationship of any kind and that I hope he finds what he's looking for and to have a great day.


These are insufficient men and women. They talk a great game but have nothing else to bring to the table. If your looking for a real relationship these are not the type of people that you want to start one with unless you are just like them. Then you are a match made in heaven. Things to look out for with these people are:
1. Talking but not showing what they can do.
2. Bragging and flashing their financial stability but offering no other information about themselves.
3. Egotistical, arrogant and snooty
4. Benefits from having power or the upper hand and can't handle other people being in the same position.
5. No mental smarts
6. Shows more interest in how you dress and how you look physically
7. Asks for too much in a short period of time.
8. Likes to give themselves a title before they can even show what they can do for you or with you.


I hope you learned a lot by reading this. Until next time love life, live well and have fun.

Why Men and Women Cheat

So you are in a relationship and your mate has cheated, your hurt, disappointed and you may feel like you are the reason. There are certain things that you need to know about why your partner has cheated. When you ask the famous question "why?" after you've hit them, thrown things, flew into an angry rage or haven't taken their calls for weeks or days you may get answers like " It was only one time", " I didn't mean to do it", " I don't know what happened", " It just happened" or the best of them all " I was drunk" those answers may not feel like enough and they seem meaningless. Now you are faced with the decision of taking them back or leaving them alone. But here's the real scope on why men and women cheat.


First people need to realize that men and women think completely opposite one another. Men are simple creatures, they don't need much and they don't put nearly as much thought into things as women do. Women want and need so much that sometimes enough isn't enough. The problem is both sexes do have 1 exact thing in common and that's never being completely satisfied.


Men can't get enough of women and we just like them come in so many shapes, sizes and colors that they just want to grab a taste of what they can. Men may cheat because of an attraction to another woman that they may not be able to fight off, or have tried for so long to fight and they may not be able to do it any longer. Ladies, you have to understand that there are sneaky, scandalous, conniving and ruthless women out there who can't wait to get your man and they will do anything and everything to get them, sometimes the temptation can be too much and the male may give in. Another reason that men cheat is being unsatisfied, maybe not in a relationship way but in a sexual way. Men may only tell you once or twice that they are unhappy or unsatisfied when it comes to sex, some may not tell you at all. Because of this they may find or seek someone outside of the relationship for this reason in particular.


Women cheat mainly for 1 specific reason and that is unhappiness. You can always tell a woman that is truly in love with her mate and her relationship status just by looking at them or approaching them, A woman that is truly satisfied with her relationship will not give another man the time of day, they may say hi or flash a smile in your direction just to be nice, but try approaching her and rejection is what you will get. You will hear responses such as " I have a boyfriend" " Thank you but no thank you, I'm happy." A woman that is unhappy with her relationship may oblige another males advances. In most cases their unhappiness is not due to sex, but mainly intimacy, feeling alone, financial problems, not feeling appreciated or simply not getting the attention or care that they feel they deserve. Most women will tell you how they feel or start showing that they are unhappy, the problem is most men don't listen or take the subject lightly. Once a woman feels that she is not getting through to her mate the phase of a new search begins.


A new search is mainly due to the feeling of not wanting to be alone. A woman may stay in her current relationship but in the process she will be looking, or entertaining other suitors until she finds her match. The one that makes her smile and laugh all the time, the one that does everything he can to make her happy, and the one that listens to her feelings and what she has to say. Men, make no mistake there are hungry men out there who like the hungry women will do and say things that you don't to acquire the interest of your woman.


There is 1 thing that men and women don't realize. When a spouse cheats, especially a male and they make it a point to keep it secret this does mean that the person actually cares about you. Think about it if a person doesn't care about getting caught or they are just that unhappy with their relationship they won't care if they slip up and you find a detailed text message from another woman or male, they won't try to cover up the fact that they maybe going to dinner or going somewhere special without you. A person that cares and still wants to protect your feelings and your relationship will try to keep from getting caught. For women who do this this is a sign that they still have some sort of wish or hope that their relationship will change and that their mate will turn out to be the person they want them to be. But for those that are fed up, when their convinced that they have had it with the B.S. and they've found the one or someone better than you it's time to face facts that it's over.

3 Ways to Turn Your Lover On!

If your sexually active, or in a relationship and you want to spice things up a bit here are things that are sure to get your lover in the mood!

1. Masturbation This is not only a way to excite yourself, but a way to arouse your lover as well. Make sure that your comfortable and really into it. Try surprising him/her. Wait till the kids are in bed if you have any and climb under the covers and start exploring. Make sure that you get to the bed first. You don't even have to be in bed, you can do it in the shower making sure to leave the door open so that your lover can see and hear. Your moans alone will peak their interest. If you want to get real kinky this is for the ladies, prop your leg on a table, dresser or whatever else accessory is in your room and start working, make sure you are dressed in something revealing yet tasteful.
   
2. Fruit is always an aphrodisiac. Strawberries, pineapple, oranges, grapes, kiwi and peaches can have an overwhelming effect on the senses. Try blindfolding your partner and tantalizing their body parts and yours with fruit. Ladies let your juices flow on a strawberry and give it to your partner to taste if you are into that. Males feed your partner, or suck on a strawberry together until it's gone and give them a long hard kiss.
   
3. Stripping
   with a twist has been an adult form of entertainment for ages, so why not bring it to the bedroom? Perform a sexy dance for your lover, strip down only you won't expose your naked body you can have whip cream on your breast or pecks, Chocolate covering your genitals, nuts for your stomach and so on… Encourage your partner to indulge in every area that is covered. See how long you both can last.
   

I always encourage my readers and subscribers to open themselves up. If you can't let go of your inhibitions with the one you love then how are you ever going to be able to say that your open and you've actually experienced the art of intimacy?

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Deal With It !!!: Enter the G-SPOT!

Deal With It !!!: Enter the G-SPOT!: "Ok, so here's the topic of the day! Masturbation. In the dating game everyone has fumbles and at times folks find gold. But during your dati..."

Enter the G-SPOT!

Ok, so here's the topic of the day! Masturbation. In the dating game everyone has fumbles and at times folks find gold. But during your dating or relationship limbo a girl has got to please herself. The problem is too many people are scared to explore themselves. Why? because society has sent us mixed messages. They say that sex is out there because of the strip clubs, porn sites and toy stores but they make it a point to put these business down because it's not natural. NEWSFLASH!!!! Sex is how we all got here. 

While some take it to an extreme with fisting, buttplugs, electric shock and other outrageous methods, I say whatever floats your boat. Ladies, we have to stop letting society tell us what to do with our bodies. If there's nothing wrong with letting a man slide up in your slippery wetness then it's damn sure not a problem for you to learn how to please yourself. How can you please someone else fully if you have no clue on what makes you explode. So I recommend you lay your sexy selves down on your bed spread your legs, pull out toys, vibrators fingers or whatever else peaks your interest and enter your G- Spot. 

Many people have issues with their partners not pleasing them but the key is to show them how to please you. Believe you me nothing turns your significant other on than exploring yourself in front of them, and if their not on top of their job then you have to take charge and show them what makes your river run, this is for males and females alike. So experience yourself and enjoy it, it may be the best sex you've ever had. 

Happy Sexing! Until next time.

Deal With It !!!: Pregnant and He Doesn't Want It!

Deal With It !!!: Pregnant and He Doesn't Want It!: "So, you find out your pregnant. You've been with your mate for a time frame of 6 months to 3 years. He doesn't want the baby and your torn b..."

Pregnant and He Doesn't Want It!

So, you find out your pregnant. You've been with your mate for a time frame of 6 months to 3 years. He doesn't want the baby and your torn between wanting it and not wanting it. What do you do? In a situation like this a woman has to sit back, take a breath and analyze her situation. Face facts, how long you've been together doesn't matter, what other people will think doesn't matter. This is a decision that the two of you have to make a decision on. Your friends will be supportive and caring giving you a kind word whenever they feel it's needed, your family may or may not be receptive to a new baby and him well he's no help. Make a decision that's right for you. Over 25 percent of couples will face a situation like this every year and out of that 25 percent 10 percent will stay together. Does keeping a baby make you a responsible adult or does abortion seem to be the responsible way out. I tell everyone I come across that asks me for advice on many subjects the most important thing that I tell them is to listen to your heart. Believe it or not married couples sometimes face the same problems. While people can't grasp the concept of husbands consulting their wives on getting abortions it's been done.

Ladies put your lives into perspectives, think about your goals, your current situation and your finances and while you may have 1 or 2 children already, would another baby really complicate things. Think about whether you'll be able to deal with the physical, mental and emotional consequences that come along with terminating a pregnancy. Do your research find out how abortions can hurt you and help you. If your mate doesn't want to accept your decision then you've found out more things about him in a few days that may have taken you years to find out. Now I'm not saying that the man's opinion doesn't matter because that would be far from the truth but you have to look at all angles. You will be the one putting yourself in jeopardy and if you've already had 4 abortions from previous years and relationships then a 5th one may not be in great favor. In other words your gambling heavy with the odds of being able to have more children. Take his feelings into account but put your well being first, he could pick up today or tomorrow and leave you for any given reason whether you keep the baby or not. Then think about how you will feel if you would've kept the baby or gotten rid of it. 

Men you need to stop thinking with your juniors and start thinking with the big brains. If your going to sex a woman with no condom then you need to be prepared for whatever comes. It's not fair to you or that woman to whisper sweet nothings in her ear, suck on the spots that make her moist and uninhibited, lay her down and explore every inch of her cave and when the stick turns pink, blue, plus or says pregnant expect her to put her whole self on the line and get rid of it. Women and men use the brains and common sense that you were given and make a decision.